Breaking Generational Curses — My Story
Breaking Generational Curses — My Story
By Angel, Founder of AMC Rise and Thrive
Hello beautiful soul 🌞
There’s a kind of quiet rhythm that runs through families — a
subtle current that shapes how we think, love, speak, and respond. It’s the
“way things are” that no one really questions. For many of our elders,
questioning tradition wasn’t just frowned upon — it wasn’t even an option. You
did what you were told. You respected your elders. You kept your head down. You
repeated what you saw, even if it hurt.
But some of us are born with this deep inner pull that
whispers, why?
Why do we act this way? Why do we stay silent when something’s
wrong? Why do we carry unspoken pain like it’s part of the family heirloom?
From a young age, I felt that tension in my spirit. I didn’t
always have words for it, but I could feel something wasn’t sitting right.
There were patterns that didn’t feel loving or fair — emotional habits that
seemed to keep everyone stuck. I felt the heaviness of wounds that no one
wanted to name.
So, I started searching. I started asking. I started learning.
Books. Conversations. Faith. Therapy. A whole lot of late
nights talking to God and crying into journals.
And over time, I realized — I wasn’t just questioning
tradition.
I was breaking generational curses.
What Is a Generational Curse?
Let’s be real: the phrase “generational curse” can sound heavy
or even dramatic. But it’s actually pretty simple — it’s a cycle. A cycle of
dysfunction, trauma, or spiritual bondage that gets passed down until someone,
somewhere, says enough.
Some of these cycles are emotional — like shame, silence,
avoidance, or emotional neglect.
Others are behavioral — addiction, poverty, control, infidelity, or abuse.
And then there are spiritual ones — rooted in fear, guilt, or old lies about
who we are and what we deserve.
We don’t get to choose the family we’re born into. But we do
get to choose what we pass on.
That’s where healing begins — not by blaming, but by becoming
aware.
Not by judging, but by deciding: this ends with me.
Breaking the Cycle: What It Actually Looks Like
My own journey hasn’t been neat or pretty. It’s been a messy,
sacred unraveling — a mix of heartbreak, revelation, laughter, and grace. Some
days it’s felt like ripping up old roots; other days, like planting new seeds.
But it’s holy work. And it’s worth every tear.
Here’s how it’s unfolded for me:
🌱 Unlearning
Harmful Traditions
I started noticing the things that didn’t sit right — the
silence around pain, the pressure to pretend, the unspoken rule that emotions
meant weakness.
Instead of automatically accepting it, I began asking, why?
I gave myself permission to say, “Just because this is how
it’s always been done doesn’t mean it’s how it should be done.”
I’ve always believed in doing things smarter, not harder — and
that includes emotional and spiritual work. Sometimes the “smart” way is
actually the hard way at first: slowing down, asking questions, and letting go
of outdated beliefs.
It wasn’t rebellion for rebellion’s sake. It was love — love
for myself, for my future, and even for the generations before me who didn’t
have the freedom to ask those questions.
🔁 Changing
Behaviors and Patterns
Breaking patterns means acting differently when everything in
you wants to fall back into the familiar.
It’s choosing not to yell when that’s what you were taught
love sounds like.
It’s walking away from a toxic situation when your upbringing told you to stay
and “make it work.”
It’s choosing grace when punishment feels easier.
Each small choice becomes a spiritual declaration: I’m not
living this way anymore.
But let me tell you — it’s hard. Those patterns are
comfortable, even when they hurt. It’s like your nervous system is addicted to
what it knows.
Breaking habits that have lived in your bloodline takes
intention. Some days I slip back into old rhythms. Some days I catch myself
halfway through and have to start over. But that’s okay. Awareness itself is
part of the healing.
🧠 Seeking
Professional Help
Therapy was one of the biggest game-changers for me. It gave
me language for things I could only feel before.
In my culture, therapy wasn’t exactly normalized. As a Latina,
I grew up hearing, “Just pray about it,” or “Talk to your family.” But
sometimes, the people you’re supposed to talk to are the same ones who caused
the pain.
I had to unlearn that silence is strength. I had to teach
myself that vulnerability is not weakness — it’s wisdom.
Therapy helped me see that the smallest shifts — the way I
respond to stress, how I communicate, how I nurture myself — can ripple through
generations. I started understanding how my reactions were shaped by survival,
not by choice.
Learning new ways of coping didn’t mean betraying my roots. It
meant honoring them enough to evolve.
🙏 Turning
to Faith
Faith has always been my anchor, even when I didn’t understand
it fully.
The church was huge in my family, but I saw the contradictions
— people preaching one thing and living another. That disconnect used to
confuse me deeply. It made me question whether faith was real or just
performance.
But as I got older, I discovered that faith isn’t about
appearances; it’s about intimacy. It’s not about perfection; it’s about
surrender.
I started praying differently — not out of guilt, but out of
courage. I prayed for my family line. I prayed for forgiveness, not because I
caused the harm, but because I wanted to stand in the gap.
I asked God to break chains I couldn’t see and to replace fear
with freedom. I invited the Holy Spirit to rewrite my family’s story — not
erase it, but redeem it.
And in that process, I felt a deeper love — not just from God,
but for my family. I started seeing them not as villains or victims, but
as souls doing the best they could with what they knew.
That softened everything.
Bible Verse:
“You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” — John
8:32 (KJV)
That verse became my reminder: truth — even painful truth — is
what sets us free.
🗣 Building
Honest Communication
Part of breaking curses means breaking silence.
That meant talking to my family — when possible. Sometimes
those talks were gentle; sometimes they were uncomfortable. Sometimes I had to
walk away from conversations that went nowhere. And sometimes, I just had to
become the safe space I never had.
Honesty has always mattered to me, maybe because I’ve seen
what happens when people hide behind lies.
For one, my memory isn’t great — I can barely remember what I
had for breakfast, let alone a lie I told last week. That alone keeps me
honest! I journal everything just to keep track.
But deeper than that, I can’t stand dishonesty. If I can’t
trust someone’s word, there’s no relationship. Period. I refuse to become what
I can’t stand.
So, I lead with honesty, even when it’s messy. I’d rather deal
with a hard truth than a polished lie.
🧬 Mapping
Out the Patterns
At some point, I got curious about my family story — not the
version people tell at reunions, but the real one.
I started using genograms — basically emotional family trees
that show not just who’s related, but how they relate. Who holds the power. Who
gets silenced. Who carries what pain.
When you see the patterns on paper, it’s like a light switches
on. Suddenly it’s not just “me being dramatic.” It’s “oh, this runs deep.”
For a long time, our elders didn’t talk about their
childhoods. Everything was “fine” or “not your business.” But after I had my
son, I started seeing reflections — habits, reactions, even fears that didn’t
come from me alone.
That’s when I started asking more questions. And when you ask
the right questions, the truth shows up.
It wasn’t until I became a grown ass woman that some of my
elders finally opened up. I guess they could sense I wasn’t asking to judge — I
was asking to understand. I wanted to know where the pain started so I could
stop passing it on.
And once those conversations began, the puzzle pieces started
to fit.
🕊 Creating
a New Legacy
At the end of the day, breaking curses isn’t about being
perfect. It’s about being present.
It’s choosing to show up differently, day by day.
I’m building a new legacy — one rooted in honesty, openness,
forgiveness, and grace. I may not have all the answers, but I know this: I’m
laying bricks for a freer road.
My son, my nieces, my nephews, my little cousins — they all
know they can come to me. If they ask me something, I’ll tell them the truth.
I’ll give them the full picture, not the edited version. Because when they know
the truth, they can choose better.
That’s how cycles change — not by force, but by awareness.
I want them to stand taller, love deeper, and heal faster than
I did. If that happens, then all this work — every tear, every therapy session,
every prayer — was worth it.
The Truth: I’m Still in Process
Let’s get something straight — I haven’t “arrived.” I’m still
learning, still stumbling, still catching myself falling into old reflexes.
But I’ve learned that healing isn’t about never slipping up —
it’s about noticing faster and choosing differently next time.
I give myself grace because effort counts. Awareness counts.
Trying again counts.
Recognizing something’s wrong? That’s the first breakthrough.
Choosing to respond differently? That’s how freedom begins.
So if you’re reading this and you’re in the thick of it —
questioning, crying, healing, praying — please know:
You are not alone.
You are doing sacred work.
You are already changing the story.
🎵 Song of
the Day
“Breaking the Habit” — Linkin Park (2003)
I thought this song was the perfect pairing for this post.
Sometimes the hardest habit to break isn’t external — it’s internal. The
thoughts we replay, the pain we normalize, the guilt we carry. This song
reminds me that healing starts when we stop repeating what hurts us.
Affirmations for Breaking Generational Curses
🌿 I am the
cycle breaker in my family line.
🌿 I honor my ancestors by
healing what they could not.
🌿 I release shame and
choose freedom.
🌿 I walk in truth, love,
and grace.
🌿 I am building a new
legacy rooted in light.
Closing Blessing
May you have the courage to unlearn what hurt you.
May you have the grace to embrace what heals.
And may the legacy you leave be lighter, freer, and fuller than what you
inherited.
With you on the journey,
Angel
Founder of AMC Rise and Thrive
#BreakingGenerationalCurses #HealingJourney #FaithAndFreedom
#SpiritualGrowth #AMCRiseAndThrive
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